Notes from
Father’s Day 2024
How God tells Women to Treat Men
Proverbs 14:26 “Reverence for God gives a man deep strength. His children have a place of refuge and security.”
Psalm 112:1-3 How blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in His commandments. His descendants will be mighty on earth; the generation of the upright will be blessed. Wealth and riches are in his house, and his righteousness endures forever.
Fathers directly impact their children who grow up with their fathers:
-They are 39% more likely to earn mostly As in school.
-They are 45% less likely to repeat a grade.
-They are 60% less likely to be suspended or expelled from school.
-They are 50% less likely to drop out of school.
-They are two times as likely to go to college and find stable employment after high school.
-They are 75% less likely to have a teen birth.
-They are 80% less likely to spend time in jail.
-They are 50% less likely to suffer from abuse and neglect.
-They are 40% less likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs.
Children in father-absent homes account for:
-71% of all high school dropouts
-90% of homeless and runaway children
-63% of youth suicides
Four greatest needs a woman has:
1. security
2. non-sexual affection.
3. open & honest communication
4. leadership
Women Men
1. security Honor & respect
2. non-sexual affection sex
3. open & honest communication friendship (fun)
4. leadership domestic support
Men and women don’t even share the most basic needs in life!
A woman tends to downplay or misunderstand her husband’s basic needs because they are so different from her own.
The First Great Need Men have is for Respect.
Ephesians 6:1-2 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
I Peter 3:1-2 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
No woman will ever succeed in a relationship with a man until she learns to respect him.
The Second Great Need Men Have is for Sex.
Most married couples are wired for conflict in the area of intimacy.
1 Corinthians 7:2–5 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
God is telling us that unmet needs within the covenant of marriage are a profoundly dangerous thing.
Men have a deep physical and emotional need for sex. And women have been given the gift of sex.
A servant spirit in marriage means putting your own needs aside and instead focusing on the needs of your partner.
The Golden Rule in Marriage: Meet your Spouse’s needs as you would want your spouse to meet yours.
The Third Great Need Men Have is for Friendship (Fun).
While women tend to bond through meaningful conversation, men bond through having fun together.
One Thing to Do: My challenge to you: Take one of these three areas and get better at it with your husband.
Malachi 1:6 “A son honors his father, and a slave his master. If I am a father, where is the honor due me? If I am a master, where is the respect due me?” says the Lord Almighty.
