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Build Your Unshakable Family-1
Starting Out Right is the Key to an Unshakeable Family
Matthew 7:24-27 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”
I Corinthians 3:13-15 the fire will test the quality of each person’s work. If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss
Divorce is nothing more than the result of two people lacking the skills and preparation to navigate the inevitable storms of marriage.
The purpose of dating should be to find a life partner, someone who shares our interests and values, someone who possesses the kind of spiritual and moral character that we desire in a future spouse.
One: Don’t date non-Christians.
2 Corinthians 6:14-16 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God.
Two: Keep sex for marriage.
In a recent survey conducted by ChristianMingle.com asked Christian singles between the ages of 18 to 59, “Would you have sex before marriage?”
In that same survey, they were asked how important is prayer and going to church when looking for a spouse?
I Thessalonians 4:3-8 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.
-Nearly 70% of men who cross that line say they no longer feel they can trust their partner.
-82% of women become deeply insecure in the relationship, saying it causes them to become clingy and emotionally needy.
Marriage magazine reported on a national survey on marriage.
-45% of marriages in America now ends in divorce.
-couples that practice three habits together –attend church weekly together, pray together, read the Bible together – the divorce rate drops from 1 out of every 2 marriages to 1 out of every 1,005 marriages!
One: Control and Domination.
Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
1. A male dominated family-the man is authoritarian and dominates the home.
2. A female dominated family-the wife is aggressive, the male is passive and she rules the roost and wears the pants.
3. An equalitarian family- both are equals, no one is the boss.
4. A female led family-neither are dominant, she leads in the family often because the husband leaves a void of leadership.
5. A male led family-
Mark 10:42-45 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve
Two: Physical or Verbal Abuse.
Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Three: Anger Issues.
Proverbs 29:22 An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins.
Four: Dishonesty.
Luke 16:10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.
Five: A Pattern of Conflict.
Proverbs 20:3 It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.
Six: Overdependence on Parents.
Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Marriage turns boys into men, and it turns girls into women, so anytime there’s a wedding, there’s a lot of maturing that still has to happen.
Seven: Mood Swings.
Psalm 42:5 Why are you in despair, O my soul? And why have you become restless and disturbed within me?
Eight: An Air of Disrespect.
Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
Nine: Dysfunctional Family.
Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
