Hosea 4:6 my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.
Jonah 4:11 "And should I not have compassion on Nineveh, the great city in which there are
more than 120,000 persons who do not know the difference between their right and left hand, as
well as many animals?"
Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with
pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over
you."
Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said: …Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule
over you."
The curse that came on Eve didn’t mean that God was directing Adam to dominate Eve.
No, the curse is God explaining to Eve the consequences of her choices.
Galatians 3:10, 13, 26-28 All who rely on observing the law are under a curse, for it is written:
"Cursed is everyone who does not continue to do everything written in the Book of the Law."
Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, … You are all sons of
God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed
yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you
are all one in Christ Jesus.
The truth is that we often grew up watching someone in our family dominate the other and
it became the unconscious model for our life.
Dominance is a disproportionate control of the relationship and those elements common to
the relationship.
Seven Ways dominance is exercised:
1) Intimidation
2) Abuse
3) Manipulation
4) Force of personality
5) Controlling spirit
6) Refusal to receive input
7) Nagging
Three forms of Dominance:
1) Global Dominance
2) Selective Dominance
3) Seasonal Dominance
The single trait of couples who were satisfied and happy in their marriage was shared
control.
There are two Consequences of Dominance:
1) Emotional distance and lack of intimacy
2) Disrespect and lost passion
There are five kinds of families:
1) female dominated- most unhealthy kids.
I Kings 21:25 There was never a man like Ahab, who sold himself to do evil in the eyes of the
LORD, urged on by Jezebel his wife.
2) male dominated- second most unhealthy kids.
I Samuel 25:2-3, 17 A certain man in Maon, who had property there at Carmel, was very
wealthy. He had a thousand goats and three thousand sheep, which he was shearing in Carmel.
His name was Nabal and his wife's name was Abigail. She was an intelligent and beautiful
woman, but her husband, a Calebite, was surly and mean in his dealings. …Now think it over
and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household.
He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him."
3) equalitarian- they lack ascendancy.
4) female led- Kids are healthier and have a good outlook on life.
2 Kings 4:8-10 One day Elisha went to Shunem. And a well-to-do woman was there, who urged
him to stay for a meal. So whenever he came by, he stopped there to eat. She said to her
husband, "I know that this man who often comes our way is a holy man of God. Let's make a
small room on the roof and put in it a bed and a table, a chair and a lamp for him. Then he can
stay there whenever he comes to us."
5) male led- the healthiest kids.
The curse of being dominant is that you will never be attracted to a healthy person, unless
God heals you.
Five Reasons why People are Dominant:
Reason # 1: A strong personality.
Reason # 2: Fear, frustration, stress.
I Peter 3:1,2,4 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do
not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when
they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the
unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.
vv. 5-6 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make
themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed
Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not
give way to fear.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-
discipline (self-control).
Reason #3: Iniquities and inner vows.
Reason #4: Chauvinism and a distorted concept of male authority
Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up
for her
Reason #5: Bitterness & Unforgiveness.
Breakthrough can only occur when you stand up to the dominator in a godly way.
The way breakthrough comes to a dominating person is when you repent before God and
ask Him to help you daily and then ask your spouse to help you by letting you know when
you are dominating them.
