Notes for
Build Your Unshakable Family-3
How to Raise Godly Children
Ephesians 6:1-4 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
-40% of our children are now born out of wedlock.
-Fifty years ago, the percentage was just 7% of all births.
-Fatherless children are 5 times as likely to repeat a grade, and have emotional problems.
-71% of all high school dropouts in the United States come from fatherless homes, according to data often cited from the U.S. Department of Justice.
-Children in father-absent homes are roughly twice as likely to drop out of high school compared to those with involved fathers.
-Research shows that tweens and teens need the firm leadership a father provides. A child performs better in school if his father takes an interest in his education. Children have more confidence when their fathers spend time with them and show them affection.
-93% of all people incarcerated are men, and 85% of them had no father figure growing up.
-Children raised without a father are 40 times more likely to be physically abused, 2 times more likely to end up as a pregnant teenager, and four times more likely to go to prison.
-Approximately 60 percent of U.S. children living in mother-only families are impoverished
-43% of men aged 18-34 are living at home, the largest number since the great depression.
President James Madison: “We have staked our future on our ability to follow the ten commandments with all of our hearts.”
John Adams:
We have no government armed with power capable of contending with human passions unbridled by morality and religion. Avarice, ambition, revenge, or gallantry, would break the strongest cords of our Constitution as a whale goes through a net. Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.
George Washington:
It is impossible to rightly govern the world without God and the Bible… we cannot expect that national morality can prevail in exclusion of religious principle.
Psalm 127:3-5 Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.
Psalm 112:1-2 Blessed are those who fear the Lord, who find great delight in his commands. Their children will be mighty in the land;
Luke 18:16 Jesus called the children to him and said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
Among people aged 14-34, 59% of those raised in church have dropped out of church and 35% have an anti-church stance.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Deuteronomy 6:6-8 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.
God’s recipe for raising godly children is supersaturation.
God commands children to give obedience, honor and respect to parents.
Ephesians 6:1-3. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise-- "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."
If you learn to respect, honor, and obey your parents, you will be able to respect and obey other people.
I John 4:20-21 If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.
If we prize being honest, unselfish, and respectful to parents, then it must be taught.
Love without instruction and discipline create selfish, disrespectful, undisciplined and rebellious children.
Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Proverbs 22:15 Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13-14 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.
Proverbs 29:15 The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
If we withhold discipline from our children, God says that they will destroy themselves.
Discipline brings respect.
Hebrews 12:9,11 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Discipline is love.
Hebrews 12:6 because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son."
Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Proverbs 29:15 The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13-14 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.
Proverbs 29:17 Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.
Most of the time a child’s rebellious behavior indicates that the child is asking the question, “Are you in charge or am I?”
Children need boundaries and ask to see them constantly.
Proverbs 20:11 (TPT) All children show what they’re really like by how they act. You can discern their character, whether they are pure or perverse.
In instances of willful rebellion, when a child knowingly goes beyond the boundaries set up by the parent, then it is time for discipline.
I Samuel 3:13 For I told him that I would judge his family forever because of the sin he knew about; his sons blasphemed God, and he failed to restrain them.
Exodus 20:5-6 I am the Lord your God… punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.
Genesis 15:18 On that day the Lord made a covenant with Abram and said, “To your descendants I give this land, from the Wadi of Egypt to the great river, the Euphrates—
Hold God’s word in our heart and teach it to our children and make sure they obey.
